tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19742068179652238972024-03-14T00:05:44.123-07:00How to Win Friends and Influence People: One Man's Journey Through a Life-Changing BookI'm going through Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" chapter by chapter, and documenting my triumphs, frustrations and experiences along the way.Kylehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15304983817810892875noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974206817965223897.post-83624108144987602612013-01-06T14:59:00.001-08:002013-01-06T14:59:31.589-08:00Dang it!I complained on accident yesterday during my car ride up to Northern California, but I caught myself! The funny thing is that I can't even remember what it was I complained about. Anyways, I'm still concentrating and trying not to criticize, and I feel like it's going well.Kylehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15304983817810892875noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974206817965223897.post-55232487211003195772013-01-05T00:20:00.002-08:002013-01-05T00:20:38.053-08:00Asking Nicely vs. CriticizingIt's tough to gauge, but I believe I'm doing a good job so far restraining myself from criticizing and complaining. I've been thoughtful when I want to complain to say it in a more conversational way, instead of "I'm ________" or "My _________ hurts" etc. (this isn't MadLibs though haha).<br />
And as far as criticizing, I'm trying to find the balance between notifying somebody they did something wrong and criticizing. If I ask it in a nice way, for example, to please turn off the TV that was left on, is it still criticizing? I think it kind of is, but I need to re-read the chapter or think of a way that could make the person want to turn the TV off without me mentioning it... PERHAPS if I say something like: "Are you still watching TV?" Yeah, that sounds better to me, once I stop being annoyed that the person left the TV on haha. (just an example). Still working on chapter 1 over the weekend; my big test will be once I get back to my apartment.Kylehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15304983817810892875noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974206817965223897.post-18678054953710793922013-01-03T10:11:00.001-08:002013-01-03T10:11:42.244-08:00"If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive"Today is the first day of my journey through Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Last night I read Chapter 1, and will try my best to put the principles into action in the next week or so.<br />
Chapter 1, to me, is probably one of the most difficult, yet rewarding pieces of advice; the main point is:<br />
DON'T CRITICIZE, CONDEMN OR COMPLAIN.<br />
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People probably don't realize how often we do these things. I, for one, thoroughly enjoy criticizing people and complaining about something bad that happened to me, but now I will try to restrain myself. There are much better ways to talk to people instead of criticizing, and nobody likes to hear a complainer.<br />
So I will keep documenting my struggles and experiences with this first chapter, until it's time to move on. Good luck to me!Kylehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15304983817810892875noreply@blogger.com0